During research for this blog I came across the following question/comment"?", (not sure what to call it). We as singles and as the church face many trials, temptations, obstacales and so on. Some of them are things that we (The Body of Christ)have not always openly discussed. Well now is the time for discussion. Please
leave your comments stating what you think about this persons situation and perhaps how you would respond to them.
I'm sure many of you will be familiar with this experience. Over the last 2-3 years I have seen many of my friends get married and now starting to have kids. That fills me with mixed emotions as I am really happy for my friends but the reminder of what I am missing is painful. It sticks the knife in and intensifies and intensifies my own loneliness.
At friends weddings, I have to sit through all the usual prattle from the vicar about the fact that marriage was given by God to provide companionship and all the joys and benefits of it. On one wedding, I endured hearing the groom saying how he felt lonely after the death of his first wife and being reminded that I did not even have that.
At a previous church, when a man's wife went away for a few days (family circumstances or job), the people in the church empathised and visited him or invited him around but never thought about single people like myself who had to live like that all the time.
As I struggle with same-sex attraction, many people in the Christian community have said that I should consign myself to singleness. They then find their own partners and I never see them again. Another one who said the same and said that singleness is a great calling a few weeks later did a sermon on how married people experience a quality and length of life, and better health and finances. How thoughtful!
Most of my friends have families and keep saying "we'll have to meet up, it's best if you come to visit us as we have kids who need to go to bed early". I understand that but every time I see them at church it's the same - "we've been incredibly busy this week and next few weeks but after that..."...although they quickly made time when they wanted some jobs doing (which I did not charge for as I did it as a favour).
Whinge over for me, but I'm really feeling unvalued and most Christians are expecting me to stay single due my same-sex attraction. Whilst on the one side, I agree because I'd rather be single than be married to somebody I'm not attracted to, I feel quite peeved that those who have said that have done very little to support me and just dismiss my struggles with "life is difficult for many people".
I am waiting to hear your thoughts.
Peace
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